I could only learn the lesson because I had made the choice.
I still remember the day as if it were yesterday. I can recall every little detail from that fateful night. I do not discuss it in great detail as I do not want to relive it, but I will not forget that tragic night. My wife was suffering from severe headaches that were worse than a migraine. She took her medicine and was resting. I let her rest the entire day and I took care of our daughter Kailee who was five at the time. I would check on her from time to time but let her rest. [...]
Please consider signing up for my newsletter. I want to show you how to Master the Art of Vulnerability and incorporate Appreciative Inquiry into your life. http://thebookofopen.com/newsletter/ On August 30, 2016 my wife came home and asked our nine-year-old how here day was. She said, “I’m disappointed.” This was on a day I told her I would make her feel special. What did I do instead? I sat on the couch and got drunk. All day long. When my wife told me what Melody said, every lie I had been living caught up with me at the same time. It’s [...]
It was about 8pm on a Sunday night. The end of a rough week. Josh saying, "I feel sad" put the exclamation point on it.
When you find the courage to let your kids see your humanity, you'll see you're not so different from one another. You find it easier to connect with people you know are authentic than people who project a caricature of themselves to the world. Your kids are no different. Imagine them voluntarily coming to you for your advice instead of you having to twist their arms to get just a few syllables out of them. When you allow yourself to be more open, your relationship with your kids will stop being strictly about roles and responsibilities. You'll become two [...]
The reward for conformity is that everyone likes you but yourself. – Rita Mae Brown. The greatest gift we can give our children is to choose to be more vulnerable. To be vulnerable is to find the courage to look yourself in the mirror and to be honest, and without judgment, about who you see staring back at you. I will show you strategies you can incorporate in your lives which will create a bias towards authenticity. Challenges which would have driven a wedge between you and your kids will become opportunities to learn and grow together. Fatherhood is [...]