The foundational principles are timeless. Focus on them and build a wonderful relationship with your children
Doesn't it stand to reason that people who witness horrific things as part of their job description might suffer mental health issues as a result?
Those we mythologize as fearless are often the most scared of all.
An interesting thing happened at dinner yesterday. My wife said something and I rolled my eyes at her. Not in a mean or vicious way, but in a "Ok, Ok..I get it" kind of way. I can admit there were better ways to handle my mild frustration. My twelve year old got upset and said, "You guys are always grumpy lately." We were both taken off guard because our relationship is amazing. It's full of joy and laughter. I had told my wife I love her ten times in the hour I had been home. Granted, when we disagree my [...]
Most of us think of vulnerability as weakness. Computer hackers exploit vulnerabilities in software. Military commanders exploit vulnerabilities in the enemy's defenses. Sports teams look for vulnerabilities in the opposing team's players. Weakness is not something we want more of in our lives. Many parents think of parenting in these terms. We're either in a position of strength or we're in one of weakness and that puts us at risk. We think our kids are just waiting for a crack to appear in our parenting armor. Once they see one they are going to pounce and then... we're doomed. We [...]
The things that are happening are unbelievable...if you never put yourself out there and share your story. At first I was amazed at all the things that were starting to happen. Now I see that when you are open, honest and willing to help these are the things that just naturally happen as a consequence. Let me walk you through what's going on right now: I am scheduled or working out the schedule for 5 podcasts right now. Two of them are very big. As in game-changing big. I am so damn thrilled to be on them. I need to [...]
If you have a story to share, and you do, please consider sharing it on The Book of Open. Some days I'm not so sure what progress looks like. It's not linear and I usually don't know what is around the next bend. In my heart I am confident but my brain can I have a hard time feeling the same way. Despite the fact that there are all kinds of good things happening I still find myself racked with doubt. I've mentioned this before but some days it never seems like enough. When I think like that I need to [...]
“What type of resources would have been useful?” That was the question posed to me during a recent interview. I participated in the creation of an online training program targeted towards police officers. I answered questions about mental illness and police culture. I have deeply personal experience in this area. My first wife was a police officer. She took her own life after a long battle with bipolar disorder. I know police culture and what it creates for people struggling with mental illness. Back to the question. What resources would have been useful? Here are a few: Leaders more concerned [...]
As a parent, you often wonder what's going on in your kids' minds. Yet when you ask, you feel shut down or like you are only getting part of the story. So you handle it by pushing harder and creating conflict or by just not asking at all. You wait and then you try again except this time the tension has been ratcheted up. You're laying bricks on the road to ruin and you don't know how to stop. There's a better way and it involves understanding how to create the right context. The dictionary defines context as: the [...]
I'm so pleased about how things are going so far. People have been so generous in sharing their stories and the response has been better than I expected. People I never would have expected have offered to make contributions. Contributions that are so personal and empowering. People aren't afraid to share their struggles. This is so important to bring us together. I know now that my purpose in life is to connect people. We're only alone if we choose to be. Brian Knowler is a long time police officer. He shared his riveting story of dealing with post-traumatic stress. He [...]